5 Biggest Things That Turn Men Off (Girls Will Be Shocked)!!!

Turnoff #1: Flakiness

Guys report that one of the biggest turnoffs when dating a woman is when she either can’t commit to plans or constantly flakes on plans. If you regularly pencil in your plans with a “maybe” and/or cancel plans at the last minute, you’re giving your guy the impression that he’s tentative in your life, aka “good enough for now.” Who wants to date someone who makes them feel temporary? Chances are you don’t, and you shouldn’t be the girl who makes her date feel that way either.

Turnoff #2: Poor communication skills

Raise your hand if you’ve been this girl in your relationship past: your date/boyfriend said or did something you didn’t like, but instead of saying anything, you went along with it. You may have even said it was “fine.” But then at some point down the road, you got upset. Maybe you even blew up at an inappropriate time, causing an argument that completely took your significant other off guard. Most of us have been guilty of passive aggressive behavior at least once in our dating past. It happens. But when you repeat that kind of behavior over and over in any dating/relationship scenario, the only thing you’ll succeed at is sabotaging your efforts. Just as you deserve to be with someone who’s comfortable communicating his wants, needs, and desires, you, too, should be a healthy communicator. Don’t say one thing if you really mean another. Instead, get in the habit of saying what you mean. Guys appreciate that!

Turnoff #3: Not playing fair

From your initial encounter to your first date and beyond, guys pay attention to whether or not you’re playing fair. If, for example, you always expect the guy to come to your side of town, pick you up, open your door, pay the check, drop you off, call you the next day, and in general placate your every need without you so much as lifting a finger, you’re not dating fairly. More important, if there’s a disagreement and you don’t fight fairly, i.e., you throw things in his face, hold grudges, and insist on winning every argument, you’re going to be a very lonely single girl because you’re not being fair. In the new millennium, chivalry goes both ways and the dating game requires plenty of give-and-take. If you can be fair in dating times both good and bad, guys will dig you so much more!

Turnoff #4: Trying to change him

It’s almost cliché how often in the media we see, hear, or read about a woman who tries to change her man. Whether it’s changing how he dresses, what he watches on TV, his manners, or his friends, the woman at the helm of all this change always comes off as a control freak. Don’t be that girl. Just as the guy in your life should accept you warts and all, you, too, should accept him for who he is. And if you can’t? Don’t date him. It’s as simple as that. The whole point of being single and dating is to meet a variety of different people, find out who you are as well as who your perfect partner might be, and eventually settle down with someone who’s right for you. Rather than trying to change the wrong guy into Mr. Right, why not keep playing the field until you meet that special someone who’s far from perfect but whose imperfections you have no desire to change? (He’s out there — keep looking!)

Turnoff #5: Ultimatums

Nothing turns a man off more than a woman who gives him an ultimatum. Not only are they not sexy, they’re ineffective. Healthy and happy relationships don’t need ultimatums. When you’re regularly communicating your needs to the person you’re in a relationship with, ultimatums are unnecessary. It’s when communication breaks down, when one person feels his or her needs aren’t being met, or when the relationship isn’t going in the direction one had hoped or at the speed one had anticipated, that ultimatums are usually issued. A huge turn-off, ultimatums are a tricky relationship tactic and should be avoided at all costs.

So there you have it — the top five male turnoffs. By understanding the dating and mating behaviors that shut men down, you ultimately master the art of how to turn the right guy on. Good luck and happy dating!

We also want to know what is the #1 Turnoff in your opinion!

783 comments:

  1. ok.. i dont fucking care. :p

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  2. you act as if men don't do this to us. we have to learn somewhere. men are NOT innocent, so let's not throw stones at ONE party- fuck.

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  3. OR, the guy could shut the fuck up and please the girl like he is supposed to, or become a single asshole who doesn't know how to successfully play our games. (:

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  4. wow i never knew thanks :)

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  5. well you all suck girls aren't all manipulative like guys seem to think and plus I have been hurt by a few guys in the past, they aren't innocent and they can be manipulative also so lets all just calm the fuck down

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  6. us guys will treat women right only if they treat us right, be fair or fuck off kthxbai :)

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  7. Actually... I did know this so... =_=U

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  8. If you want to calm down, use a more neutral tone in your response. Saying "you all suck" is not usually going to lead someone to "calm the fuck down". Tranquility, like all good things, starts at home.

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  9. lol i'd like to point out that only the comment with the number "1" and the comment gratful for the info are the only ones without the word FUCK in them. and if youre really trying to change what the author thinks, youre probably doing one of the things mentioned above and trying to cover it. IT DOESNT WORK. #1 turnoff....Communication.

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  10. Haha everyones cussing. FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK. Oh fuck, let guys tell the girls how they feel if they say we don't think about their feelings too; well prove you have any feelings damn it. Lls. :)

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  11. number 3 is the one which is the worst thing girls do

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  12. lol. this is funny. i'm a girl, and i understand both views here. some guys are real jerks, i've had my run in with a few of them, but they all still do have feelings. and all of these things may be turn offs, but they're also crucuial in a relationship that you want to work. The girls are writing from their experiences, and writing from mine, guys should treat us likes this as well as us treating them like this. if you watch TV you see prime examples of bad communication, and it's usually from the girls. It's natural that girls strop, so why not end the insults, and just improve on who we are instead. i'm 15 and even i can figure this one out.

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  13. Phantom darkwingsJune 13, 2010 at 3:40 PM

    It isn't saying that us girls are always like that, everyone is guilty of at least one of these, admit it.
    I know I have.
    So just because you're sore that you've only realized it now, don't take it out on the guys.
    I personally thank the writer of this page, it makes me realize what I've been doing wrong, and how I can alter my behavior in future, there are so many similar articles out there aimed at guys, Google them.

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  14. Guys are dicks/assholes. Some guys are not.
    Girls are sinister/controlling. Some girls are not.

    ...

    Girls are dicks/assholes. Some girls are not.
    Guys are sinister/controlling. Some guys are not.

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    Most people fit in somewhere and everybody makes mistakes, but that doesn't mean that the people at the top -GIRLS- have to constantly insult us over it. Even if you are just kidding, it may hurt some people.
    Retaliation is blatant and stupid and -GUYS- those of you who are doing it and insulting the other gender are just as bad as those who insulted you.

    So everyone who is causing trouble on this, F*** off, or you can agree and the fighting stops. (That was kinda hypocritical, but this still needs to stop. I feel like I'm reading a bunch of prepubescent teenager's "I hate you" letters. Peace out. KEEP IT CLEAN!)

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  15. Phantom darkwings,

    Thank you.

    ~ Matthew

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  16. wow does every one really have to use the "F word" in each little comment. come on no one cares THAT much. jeeze. GROW UP!

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  17. Wow. Lots of fighting.

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  18. But the biggest surprise is that this whole fight started today in the course of two hours.

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  19. Wow, some major overreactions going on here. Both guys and girls have feelings, and both make these mistakes. Let's just get along.

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  20. everyone is different some guys or girls are unfair but others aren't..

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  21. wat the FUCK ?! ,, ya'll r SO immature, really ? stop arguing about who is ansswhole or who isn't, everyone DOES make mistakes,, BOYS nd GURLS,, so stfu ( SHUT THZA FUCK UP )if u think any of them is better, ur WRONG (:

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  22. every one really needs to calm down. and stop swearing and fighting. cant we all just get along? we are only human, and god probably wouldnt want this. so stop the bickering and get along :) OR why dont you get off you butts and do something else? im sure there is something better to do then fighting on a computer :P kthxbai :D

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  23. wow all you girls blame this on us like we're always the bad guys. thats not true, you're just blaming us so you can feel better about yourselves. for some reason women can be like this and us guys can't say anything about it, but the second we're like this you all go fucking insane.

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  24. This is why none of you have a partner.

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  25. Everyone, both guys AND girls do this sometimes. But not all of them are that bad. Although sometimes certain guys OR girls do that, it's not always the case with genders as a whole. Both are at faults sometimes and this is just something that says this is what ticks everyone off. The only person to blame and hate are the actual people who DO things like this.

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  26. too much make-up

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  27. Guys, calm down! Guys can be assholes.
    Girls can be bitches.
    Tough luck, its how it always has been and will be. get over yourselves.

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  28. if theres grass on the pitch play ball

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  29. I'm pretty tired with having to deal with chauvinism in every day life, but here's the truth of it: it comes from both sides, and there's not a damn thing you can do about it. Girls are going to assume guys are assholes, dicks, and users, solely because they've been fucked over by one or two guys. Guys are always going to think girls are manipulative, controlling, and needy, simply because one or two girls they dated came across as such. This isn't a problem of genders. It's a problem of people from both genders being ignorant, narrow minded, and just outright idiotic. Open your eyes, open your ears, and perceive a wider range of things than just those things that may or may not have happened to you. Christ.

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  30. i'm a girl and i think guys are nice :]

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  31. Henry The ChickenJune 13, 2010 at 6:55 PM

    i like chicken balls

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  32. “Truth is everyone is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the one worth suffering for.” -- Bob Marley

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  33. Well everyone is obviously too stupid to notice that not every girl does this. It's just a list of the biggest turn offs, not a list of things that every girl does and needs to stop doing. None of my ex-girlfriends did any of these, the worst that happened was probably #1 but she was busy. Not all girls are like that, you pillocks.

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  34. Ohkay, in case you misread this, it doesn't say "All girl do these things and us perfect guys care a lot!" it says "The top five turnoffs for men." It has NOTHING to do with EVERYBODY doing it, or ANYTHING about men's problems, that's all for a different page. this is just informing about the top five turnoffs.

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  35. You guys need to chill... Jesus, it's just a thread... It means nothing.

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  36. My ex told me I treated him right, and yet he DIDN'T treat me right. He manipulated me, lied to me, cheated on me. The works. I was honest and he said "You treated me right, I just found a girl who will go all the way with me." He was 14!! And wanted to have sex! The other girl was 17.
    So girls will treat guys right if guys treat girls right.
    And this shit applies to guys and girls, not just girls. Don't put it all on us.

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  37. ok

    1) yea most guys ae arse holes, i personaly dont blame chicks for not trusting us and shit. but on the other hand some of us, me included, are decent guys, and yes we have feelings and dont want to hurt you. im a decent guy, i have never hurt a girl before iv always been the one hurt and it makes me depressed every time but i hide it, as most guys do with there feelings.

    2) ANOTHER TURN OFF! DO NOT REJECT COMPLIMENTS! u may as well punch us in the face and say u dont want the compliment. if we compliment you, just say aww thx babe and give us a kiss or sumthing, i duno. just dont reject it, its a major turn off and incredible annoying :)

    p.s, this post is 5 turn off's for GUYS, yes missscadaverous u have a point, but this is a 1 sided post, there will be another that does the exact same to us :)

    thx for reading people.
    xx

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  38. Holy crap peoples clam the fuck down this person was just showing what turn man off Jesus christ you people are fucked

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  39. honestly all the girls here are taking things out of proportion. Obviously you don't realize that everyone does these things. for example somebody posted this. "OR, the guy could shut the fuck up and please the girl like he is supposed to, or become a single asshole who doesn't know how to successfully play our games" yah so girls stfu seriously

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  40. I'd have to very much agree with numbers 1, 2, and 4.

    And seriously. Calm down people. As has already been stated, this is not saying that ALL girls do this or are like this. They are just turn-offs.

    Also, number 2 is definitely MY biggest turn-off. In my opinion, when you keep your mouth shut or just say "it's fine", you are flat out LYING to me which to me is disrespectful and insulting. BE HONEST FOR CHRIST'S SAKE. It may hurt a little, but we're big boys and we'll get over it.

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  41. Wow.........I am laughing SOOOOOO hard right now!!!! You people need to calm down; it comes from both sides.

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  42. ok- this does go both ways- a little from the girl a little from the guy. each couple has to find a balance.

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  43. hahahahaha.... look at the peeps wetting their pants over this insignificant article..


    If the chick is hot the guy will accomodate.

    If the dude is hunky the girl will accomodate..

    Works with wealth too!

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  44. girls, and guys have their sides. and we shouldnt just figure guys dont feel this way, because we dont know. thye dante haveee to please us every second of the day, right?
    so everyone stop bitching, because we dont know how the other person feels. k? k(:

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  45. numbers 1,4, and 5 make no sense. wtf is an ultimatum? i am a guy but this is kinda sexest. it is assuming the girls do everything wrong. both guys and girls do this and the turn offs go both ways. whoever made this needs to calm down and prolly just got out of a bad relationship. pretty much almost no girls do this and he is assuming all of them do. true these are real turnoffs but they never really happen all that much. and this turns off girls too prolly...

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  46. dude. ^^ that is soOo true...

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  47. ummm im pretty sure that these are turnoffs for girls and guys....and does everyone have to curse!those 5 things are facts...not lies

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  48. i agree with the one above me and 3 above it....and ultimatum is a choice between 2 things...ex:
    Guy- either you arent freinds with him or i leave..
    or...
    girl-its me or it

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  49. Okay, just to let you all know. i'm a girl and i agree with all of those turn off's and same goes for guys. Girls hate those exact same things that guys do.

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  50. wow all these girls are getting so defencive. if yew just read the title it says that girls will be shocked.
    and really why does everyone like fite on these things. its so pointless and stupid.

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  51. This article is actually very true... a lot of girls are guilty of doing all of these things. I'm a girl, and I know that girls can be the biggest nightmares and cause more drama than necessary... but guys, you have no idea the kinds of things you do that turn US GIRLS off. Like, for example, you think that the way to turn a girl on is to just jump right into it and move quickly.. when it comes to everything. No, most of us need some time to feel comfortable enough. Slow it down... and remember, we may be flawed, but we deal with a lot of your BS too, so give us a little credit.

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  52. this is hilarious, guys and girls can be immature too, its proven ^.

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  53. This is awesome, everyone is giving relationship advice! Yay! Now that we all know that every man is the exact same and that every women is the same, I feel like I can finally get in a lasting relationship. VICTORY SCREECH!!!!

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  54. I don't think this counts for everyone, and this doesn't apply to just girls either. This is something for everybody everywhere to keep in mind and more.

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  55. I'm a girl... this seems fair to me. I mean, if they bother you to the point where you blow off plans, lie to them, don't care for them, demand things from them, or try to perfect him, either you are doing it wrong, or he is. Try and look at it from a different perspective. Look at what you've done and said to him. Look and what he's said and done to you. Would you want to be treated like he treats you? Do you think you're being fair? If you're not, this isn't the guy for you, because he's obviously 'not good enough' on your terms and you're just looking for failure. If he's the one doing it wrong, leave him, you deserve better. Don't settle for a guy if he's not good to you, regardless of how much you love him, or what he used to be, there's nothing you can do but look around the fishtank for a new partner. Good luck everyone, it shouldn't be that hard to grasp if you ask me, but then again we are just so fickle...

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  56. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Yeah, I couldnt get through everyone's comments without laughing. in fact, i didnt make it to the bottom.
    Clearly a lot of you have taken this way out of context and blown it WAY out of proportion. And those of you who are arguing, it is honestly relly immature... One day you'll look back on your current thoughts and see them as being ridiculous.
    Everone is entitled to their own opinion just as everyone is going to be different and react differently in certain situations.
    Those of you blaming the opposite sex ENTIRELY seem to have a few screws loose. It is incredibly petty and to me, and many others, i'm sure, you wouldn't have matured pass the age of 14.
    It is stupid to put the entire world's population of males into a category and then label them. Just as it is with the females.

    This entire argument never should have happened, the title of the 'article' said enough and no more.

    And the Bob Marley quote pretty much sums everything up nicely.

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  57. Funny thing is all the girls that don't pay attention to these 'rules' are the only girls guys seem to want to date.....

    Who can honestly say that you've ever seen a guy go for the 'safe girl' or the 'girl that plays fairly' please. Men go for the stuck up, prissy, skinny, blonde, big-breasted bitches out of all the girls he could be with, he picks the bitch. Why? Because men are hard-wired to pick bitches. It's like, science or something.

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  58. how bout this i fuckin hate it when chicks always think that us guys used them..i broke up with 3 chicks because of it.

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  59. when your trying to talk and she gets distracted by tv or your with her and she keeps texting everyone like ur not immportant enought to talk 2

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  60. i totally had no idea. i always worry about my hair and clothes and whatnott. i never considerd these kinda things. well.. its good to know!! ima definately work on these things.haha. :D

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  61. Wow. It's funny how into this conversation people get, haha it's no biggie

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  62. "June 13, 2010 3:01 PM
    Anonymous said...
    OR, the guy could shut the fuck up and please the girl like he is supposed to, or become a single asshole who doesn't know how to successfully play our games. (:"


    (Wow...What A Bitch xD)

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  63. hey, anon regarding distracted women - ever hear of ADD? and guys can do it too.

    Either way, any flaw anyone points out can apply to both genders.

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  64. so I read through a lot of this. There are a lot of people making the same argument. Everyone makes mistakes. I am a girl and I know I have done a few of the things on the list to my boyfriend in the past month but he has done a few things on that list to piss me off. We all make mistakes. We are human. Grow up and learn from your mistakes. I was shocked when I read the first few comments. Girls you need to chill out. They aren't trying to point blame at anyone. They are just trying to express themselves so that we can better ourselves. I personally believe the person who created this post can not talk to their significant other about this so they created a post about it. It is another form of communication but if it is directed to a girl and she finds out she is going to be PISSED. We want guys to treat us the same way that they want to be treated. Its the golden rule. Just follow it and we will all be good. I have to agree with the person above me that talked about the guys always going for the bitches. It is very true. If you don't break the rules and give them grief then they won't do anything to be with you. It is really hard on our end to know what you guys want from us when you wont even look at us because you want the girl with the amazing body. I may be one of those girls not but I have been on the other end of that leash and it sucks. Guys, be less superficial for the most part. I know there are guys out there that aren't but yea. I've been hurt TONS of times and it sucks. These guys wanted a hot chick that they could get with and leave. Wow. ranting. ok. gotta stop. but yea. Punch line is grow up and move on. We all make mistakes tell us what we are doing and most of us will stop. =)

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  65. hahaha this is retarded...my bf was like those arent turn offs those are just tips.

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  66. Am I the only one who noticed the title says 5 things that turn guys off? All the Girls stated acting like it said "5 Traits girls have" and us guys just fought back instead of being calm!

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  67. this actually amuzes me... with all do respect, i dont doubt that these would be some of the most common turn offs but, personally my #1 turn off would have to be a girl who's not willing to be her self no matter the situation. to hide their opinions and act completely different to impress you... it doesnt impress me...and there are guys with different tastes. i dont think its targeting a specific gender, people are just taking it that way. nevertheless, this does come across as alittle biased, im not too sure where this person got this info because it sounds like it may be their own opinion if tere is no data to back it up. The women clearly took this the wrong way like someone said earlier the title says 'five things that turn guys off' not 'five traits girls have'. this has become one of those mindless wars, kinda like a war over religon in a way. No offence to anyone but religon seems like a weird thing to fight about. its just an opinion on the out look of life and how we got here. you dont need to bring in heavy artillery to prove your point a debate works fine. my point is we should STOP over reacting and perhaps take this as advice on what to avoid, including the guys.

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  68. Wow, I just realized that the last girl I liked had atleast 4/5 of these qualities (I'm not sure if there was an ultimatum), this article sure made me feel a bit better about myself...

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  69. guys think with their head. not the head up there (:

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  70. THANK YOU! who ever posted before me about the head thing. i heart you. lol

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  71. All this article is trying to say is that a relationship is a two-way road. Just like as a woman you expect men to do these things, so do men expect you women to return the favour. we are not accusing you of doing it, or claiming we don't but rather that for a relationship to work both parties need to communicate and work together to make sure this doesn't happen.

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  72. Read the first few comments. It amazes me how fucking stupid people are. This article is explaining the things that men do not like. Simple. Men expect the same damn things women expect. And it pains me to see comments such as Anonymous #2's post (aka 4th comment going down), because it's like he/she is saying men don't have feelings at all. Shit. It's not like we're accusing all women of doing it. This article is solely based on what men do not like. And just to add, men DO think with their minds. A lot more than they do with their cock.

    Anyway, great article. Hopefully people learn from this. >.>

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  73. Monique, or really any of the girls bashing this article, most of what you read in the article is true. I, personally don't think all girls are manipulative, i fact I have yet to run into an unruly, manipulative girl, and I'm 18. But, once again you ladies have turned this into something about you. This article doesn't bad mouth women, It just states what us men don't like. Not ALL men think with their..ehrm..lower head. I hope I haven't offended anyone reading this.

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  74. solid info, though alot of guys pull that stuff too. I (the nice guy) am usually stuck with the girl who is an emtional wreck due to the asshole guys.

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  75. There are plenty of 5,10 or even 75 "things" like this, that involve women and not men. So dear god grow up and realize that nobody in the entire world is the same!

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  76. i would like to be the one to point out that 'turn-offs' are something that puts u off sex and those 5 things dont always put us guys off sex so the author FAILS big time

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  77. Idk about you guys but Flakiness is the worst one. It works both sides with the exact same impact. And it's obvious that both sides do this. Guys can just break a girl down without even realizing it because he is so selfish and girls can systematically destroy some dude because she is insecure about herself. All of these happen to both and everybody who's saying the guy is better or the girl is better is a damn fool (Also, I'm a 16 year old guy with the dirtiest mouth in my town and I was able to do with without swearing. Don't forget, guys, many girls don't appreciate being sworn at).


    ~~~~~Jitters101~~~~~

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  78. Lol these all seem kinda obvious to me, like changing a guy its sorta obv that u shouldnt try to change the guy and not playing fair like DUH im sorry i wasnt shocked at all XD

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  79. I've been hurt before, and now I realise why.

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  80. So as soon as ONE little thing lists only SOME of the shortcomings of women, it's complete and utter bullshit and is a direct attack at women in general? Feminism is all well and good, but confine it to extreme circumstances and remember that although some men have and continue to treat women as subservient beings, women still have shortcomings and it is not a crime to point them out.

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  81. I agree with these five points but I do think it should be called 5 biggest things that kill a relationship. Both sides are both victims and causers of these 5 points, it's not just the one gender that will do these things

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  82. im not reading all of these, i will give you fuck wits a leason it is give and take you are not both going to be happy all the time with everything, some times you have to deal with short falls, alot of time try and stick with it and dont forget they will not see your Point of veiw all the time. now that was hard not lol

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  83. I only read a few of the comments from the top and if you ask me both males and females are wrong. You all seem to label ALL women/men in the same group. All men are not like this, and neither are all women, The piece was right about how dating is finding people who you may or may not like. You can't give women 5 rules to abide by as well as you can't say all these apply to every guy.

    This was clearly called TOP 5 for a reason, It was either the writers top 5 or he/she went out and did the research on a group of males and found out that in that particular group of men these were the ones that came up on the most reports.

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  84. You all sound quite immature about it all. Yes women can and will do all the things mentioned but then, so will men. I agree, everyone is entitled to voice their opinion and no ones opinion is right or wrong, but in my experience, and I am 41 (woman), young women are looking for a bit of security in a relationship and young men are still looking at the relationship, as a bit of fun. Once the fun is gone, then thats when the wandering begins. Men need the same things women need, but in different amounts. Women need a lot of emotional attachment, men need a lot of sexual pleasure. Both need to be loved and cared for and feel they are needed by their partner. One thing is for certain, the past is gone, don't dwell on it, you can't change it. The future is yet to happen and no one knows how its going to pan out. What is important is living for today, listening to your first instincts and having fun along the way.

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  85. turnoff number 6 - swearing!

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  86. Get with the program if you all want to be adults you need to figure out God put us here for a reason and it wasn't this .Learn about each other,man/women,by paying attention to each others needs,wants,dreams, etc...You sound more intelligent and receptive to some change,when you don't start a shoutng, cursing,match. We are all different,so go out today and treat each other the way you want to be. Don't interrupt each other or you just might miss something important.You people fight because you are ignorant about which or whom you speak.There is no room for jealousy to start or keep a relatinship.Wake up and grow up. You can make your self known and respected and fair.Then you will enjoy people and life much better.Cursing just makes you seem like the ignorant,disrespectful person no one likes!

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  87. bahahahaha... this is so fkn ridiculous... they talk about equal rights and equal relationship requirements?? then why does this page exist?? i disagree 100% thats these are male turnoffs!! they may piss us off, but guys do the same things to girls!! a turnoff is smelly feet or bad breath, not this bunch of bullshit... and the funniest thing is that this - ("Or you fucking idiots can realize that guys have thought and minds and feelings and hearts like everyone else and treat them better than you usually do and stop making conclusions and being complete utter fucking control freaks.") is said by a fkn 14 yr old guy who prob hasnt even had his first pube or wet dream let alone a girl who could have possibly broken his poor little pre pubescent heart!!! guys have faults, girls have faults... theres no such thing as a perfect relationship.. this page is fkn stupid!!

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  88. dont comment if u aint got nothing good to say hu cares if u get hurt love is like a game if u loose then fkcn tryin again fkc u desperate bitches stop being haters jst cos he is sayin good things bout us...ps didnt u read tha right one is out there ya piece of she if he broke ya heart obv u aint tha right one for him and he aint tha right one for u lol

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  89. Why is everyone over-reacting and arguing? Either you agree or you disagree, there's no need to insult people. Shit.

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  90. The girls complaining shut the fuck up. You expect us guys to do everything like it's compulsory. How about you lift your fingers for once and do something other than complain about your man. The guy isn't going to stay with you if he feels like your a hoe trying to control him.

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  91. What's kinda funny is that this whole fight broke out when there really isn't anything to fight about. I don't feel that I'm manipulative. I view myself as an equal, and that's how a relationship should work. The girl shouldn't be in control and neither should the guy. So there you have it. You're fighting, swearing, and making no sense whatsoever for no reason. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone will eventually have relationship problems (minor or major). It's not one-sided, so deal. Kbyeee.

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  92. number 3 is stupid if a guy really cared about you he won't have a problem with coming across town and picking you up or paying for your movie or opening or door. no offense or anything I just think that stupid

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  93. Not all guys and girls are the same,maybe you guys just dont no how to pick them, maybe your hanging around the wrong people.

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  94. yeah this is actually pretty true. im a guy id know, lol, but i believe theres no double standard both people should treat eachother equally. If you really love the person, wouldn't u want to do that anyway?

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  95. Haha, i liked that, but my oppinion on the Biggest turn off is... dadaddada....

    GIRLS USING BOXERS, lol thats the biggest turn of for me

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  96. hahaha shape oh at little 14 year old spastic tryin til give his opinion on datin!

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  97. The only way I would try to change someone was if they were a pothead or an alcoholic...I would try to HELP, not try to control...but pointless things like their friends you can ignore...

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  98. ...ok... hopefully I can end this dumb shit. (yes i cursed... deal bitch)

    so. They are turn offs. therefore if a girl does it and didnt know they were doing it or that a guy doesnt like it. Now they know. now yall just need to settle that ass down....shit.

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  99. Well, how about everyone just treat the one they're dating with respect and just love them! I absolutely hate when you're dating a guy and he finally tells you he loves you, but then he tells one or more of his ex's that he loves them too! That's when you find someone new!

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  100. hahah this is funny. why the fuck is everyone saying 'fuck'? haha. :)

    LETS ALL BE FRIENDS HERE, PLEASE?!
    i mean we dont know eachother, why be mean?!
    <3 <3 <3

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  101. Ahaa Fair play these are true.. but i am ussually right :D i just sometimes let him think he's won ;)

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  102. wow i dont do any of this :) yay

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  103. playing fair is the biggest one.

    look girls, we don't normally mind paying for you, and all that shit, but when it comes to the point where you expect us to, or order us, well fuck that.

    by the way, to all the girls that say "well then, if the guy doesn't treat me like this then he's single." well news flash dumb fuck, you're single too.

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  104. That really wasn't the biggest shock in the world...I don't really think anyone DIDN'T know this stuff...it's obvious. :)

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  105. "FUCK FUCK FUCK". Is that all people say now??!

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  106. To most of you below complaining about guys doing this, the fact is that it says 5 Things that turn GUYS!! Off. There is probably a page out there that is the same thing only how to turn a girl off, go complain about a guys behaviours there pls :D

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  107. I completely agree with jake d and all the girls who r saying they should do what we want and they should change for us stfu we have feelings too and if you're gonna be the opposite person that these tips describe have fun getting a guy cause u aren't unless he's a pussy and won't stand up for himself and he's desperate but those are the type of guys who in the end most likely end up killing their wives so have fun

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  108. I have both agreements and disagreements on this article. I agree in 90% of it, but i would like to comment on the changing the guy, thing; just try to say some hints, and maybe he will pick the hints up. and if he does, he pleases the girl very much, so he gets a reward maybe ;) But I agree on most of the other things :)

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  109. im a girl and i see both sides of view. i think #3 and #1 are most common, becuz if guys spoil a girl enough well thats what number 3 is. most of the time 3 is the guys fault.

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  110. hehe ^^ everyone gets so irate so quickly :} if girls and guys didnt have negatives then there would really be any positives either would there? ^^ cheer up chickens :P

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  111. Why are the guys always targeted? If we were to break up with a girl there's obviously a reason. Girls don't seem to understand that it's not just a guy's fault.

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  112. oh and to the person who posted the fourth comment you better be joking becasue co one's gonna wanna date you if you're going too be a total asshole like that

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  113. I have to say that for me, as a female, flakiness and lack of communication tie for the biggest turn offs.

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  114. guys do the same to girls. they date unfairly all the time

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  115. ok wow peolpe neeed to take a chill pill like really its jus telling if girls and guys are not equal it will not work. and also guys are nt inisent but neither are girls!

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  116. Seriously, why is everyone arguing over such a simple concept? It's obvious: THESE ARE THE TURN OFFS. Girls: quit being such control freaks and actually try to be a good person. Guys: Not every girl is as controlling as you think. Simple!

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  117. Heyy umm everybody. It's not that big of a deal. I mean if you look at this stuff MOST people do get turned off by these things. All the fighting should stop just because this page is someones personal opinion and they arent making a personal insult towards you.

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  118. Fourth post from the top is gonna die as one lonely bitch.

    I hate people, guys or girls, who think they're better than all others and that everyone should bend to their will.

    It's like, they think that just because their parents tell them that they're the most important person ever, they actually believe the world revolves around them.

    Silly brats, get over yourselves C:

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  119. oh.. you are all just a bunch of drama queens.. it's very simple, all you have to do is be honest, be your self and show some respect, no stupid "games".. male or female dosn't matter.. there are just as many female jerks as there are male jerks.. don't be so touchy..

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  120. I woulda thought the 1# turn off for a straight man would be a penis... meh.

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  121. kaylee said not all girls r like that! yea sometimes we do blow off plans but its becaus were super busy! why wouldnt we want to be with the one we luv??? i mean come on at least be resonable

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  122. LOL this is funny

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  123. Why cant people just respect each other and stop bitching? Both men and women can be manipulative. And we hate it.

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  124. yupp i agree with that^-^

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  125. It's true that guys aren't perfect. I got a couple friends who are players and dicks to girls. I was taught to respect girls, ( except for ghetto loud black girls, cant stand them ) But woman always forget that some guys, treat the woman better than she treats him. I agree we are supposed to treat a woman right, but woman should also treat the man right. Big thing is that playing fair part. Like i have some friends who are girls, and they say i love you to me, and i say it back. I dont mean actual love, i just mean i love that person as a friend. In a relationship girls have a problem with that, but its ok for them to do that? Girls treat the guys the same way he treats you, and yea, big thing, play fair.

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  126. i mean women* spelling error

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  127. Grow up be mature and thank you now i know what not to do in a relationship. Just b/c you have the power to use the "F" does not mean you have to. lets be adults now and just thanks the person who wrote this.

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  128. Men and Women.

    Neither of them are innocent.

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  129. all i have to say is WOW. almost everyone here is acting like a three year old whose crayons got stolen. is this really that important to you that you have to attck other people without knowing the whole story? and honestly....ITS JUST A THREAD!!!!!!!!! this is someone's point of view and if you don't like it, don't read it or do something to change it, but complaining and swearing get you no where. not every girl is a bitch not every guy is a dick. but this is a way for girls to understand what guys don't like and improve, not change, themselves, myself included. don't judge everyone off of an experience with one person. and people who are freaking out over every little things, I'm sorry for whatever is going on in your life that you feel so angry and hurt you want to attack and hurt anything and everything you can. but please everybody, stop fighting and swearing. its ridiculous and completely unneccessary. show a little love. <3

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  130. it makes me sad to see that people are unable to disagree without attacking eachother. none of you realize how lucky you are. there are people out there with no food, water, shelter, or safety. people who will be killed or tortured because they had the courage to stand up for what's right. children will come to their parents hungry and those parents will have to tell them they have nothing to give them. right now, someone is being raped and/or murdered. someone just lost a loved one. someone just felt so unloved and so optionless he or she killed themself. people are giving their lives so you can feel freedom. no matter what's happened in your life, God loves you. All of this is happening and you people are worried about a thread?! grow up and think about someone other than yourself. i'm 15 and i can see this. why can't you? is it that you don't want to or that you're just so apathetic you know and just don't care? show some compassion and love. what if it were you?

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  131. I'm confused,why is everyone so angry?
    :/

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  132. NObody is innocent. people get hurt by men and women. They BOTH can be assholes.

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  133. This list is applicable to both sides because both women and men do it. It got one thing right...date fairly so everyone is happy =).

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  134. Ok. SO. To the girls that think guys are out there to pamper them... guess what. we're not. My wallet can't pay for every single movie you want to see. Im sorry, im 15, I don't have a job, I'm in school, I have sports, yes, we can go out once in awhile, but not everyday. She understands that. And to the guys that use and manipulate girls. your pathetic. You truly are. If your 3 year old self saw you, what would they think of you? Would they be proud that theyre going to become a jerk? How will you feel in 20 years when you look back and realize that none of your relationships mattered? Back to girls: This list is true. You can complain and whine about it, but guess what. Its not going to change. To guys: Dont be pricks.

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  135. lol, guilty as charged 8D

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  136. Okay, so I don't do any of these things. But it states it like the women in the relationship does everything wrong. Men mess up too, and so now I'd like to see one of these pages about The 5 Biggest Things That Turn Women Off just so that the guys know what they need to stop and start doing. That's all I'm saying. So, thanks for writing this, but now can we see that the men do wrong with us women? Kthx. (: Ohh, and what's an Ultimatum?

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  137. why should a guy give a shit what you want if you dont give a shit what we want. guys can find girls easy. if you're gonna be a bitch a majority of the time we'll drop you like a rock. we can move on and then the bitchy girl is gonna be the lonely cunt no ones wants to ask out on a date.
    as for men pleasing women. haha fuck off.
    its a 2 way street, well please you if you please us. :p
    also there should be another one about chicks calling themselves fat or ugly all the time or if we give you a complement you'll be like nope. so if you think your fat and you tell your date that. he's probably bound to start saying 'damn strait get on a treadmill and lose some weight' because if you think it, others will start thinking it too.

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  138. well it's not just guys , its for girls too . so its not like there's only one gender that it specifys towards .

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  139. hahahaha bull shit 2 of those i think are sexy what a fail you must have done no research at all.

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  140. Hey hey...........this is so tru.......i haven't been in a date b4 but yeh......never really knew bout this......

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  141. Wal-Mart EmployeeJune 14, 2010 at 1:03 PM

    ATTENTION EVERYBODY................PENIS..................that is all.Please enjoy the rest of your visit at Wal-Mart.

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  142. Bad breath? Anyone?

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  143. This is a two way street, we should all treat everyone right! But as a girl I have to say that chivalry does go both ways. Is it so bad if the guy pays when he asked the girl out to dinner or a movie?Is it really a hasle to open the door for your girlfriend or another girl? Guys are saying how they feel and I do respect that. But still,being a girl, I feel that I have to ask those questions.

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  144. ummmmm ok really? come on why is there so much cussing? is it bc u guys cnt take the truth? both guys and gurls have flaws and this is just what the publisher thinks. all this is probably true but why is it ok if there a page for turn offs with guys but when theres one for girls its a big deal GROW UP!

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  145. I get wat there r saying but a guy should at least open the door for you and drop u off! I mean that's just being polite not being unfair!

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  146. guys and girls are equals, and calling all guys ass holes or all girls whores is completely ignorant

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  147. Come on people, if you really step back and think about this logically, EVERYONE should follow these rules. Think about everyone who doesn't, not only in dating situations, but in friendships or at work. Seriously, who wants a friend who expects you to buy everything for them and provide transportation! Unless you're really rich, no one wants to be put into that situation.

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  148. This whole thing is a two way street, but this whole survey thing was only defending men and their feelings. this is the "5 biggest turn offs for a guy and a girl", this is gender specific. Besides, guys need shit like this sometimes; im not saying all guys (cause as we all know, the common male has downgraded his gender population for being known to fucking cheat) are treated unfairly, but this whole thing does make some good points u have to admit that =/

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  149. Look, this isn't trying to blame girls, and I totally understand where you people are coming from, but it's just saying these are the top things that guys don't like. True, the guys do that too, but it completely depends on the person. Not everyone does these things...

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  150. EVERYONE!! GOOGLE - "JUSTIN BIEBER SYPHILIS" !!!

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  151. i had all 5 problems over a span of 4 months and just couldnt take it anymore so i dumped the self centered bitch

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  152. wasn't this supposed to be used to put our turn-off's? instead it's being used to prove men/women are wrong/right

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  153. this does need to go both ways, though. men need to be fair just as women do, otherwise both parties are in for something ugly at the end.

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  154. "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." -Gahndi

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  155. Pretty much common sense. o.o I was not surprised at any of this.

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  156. guys can be ass holes but some are just perfectly wonderful !!

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  157. okay this is just a fucking list that says what general things are unattractive to guys that girls do. i am a girl and found this list helpful because i sometimes tend to do these things. theres a list of the 5 biggest things that turn women off, so shut the fuck up about this one. and if you dont like it, dont read it. simple as that.

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  158. Guys will only treat girls right if the girls treat the guys right.

    Do onto others as you want done onto yourself

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  159. You've read it, your reaction is to form your opinion on it and keep it to yourself.

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  160. BALLS!!!!! yea! whats up!?

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  161. having a girl try to talk to you 24/7 and try to boss you around

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  162. For all the women of the world, Whoooo f'in Cares. What a waste of brain power.

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  163. Since i'm about a mile down the list of people who commented on this people will probably not bother their asses reading this but meh, i'm putting it here anyway.

    Done youth work for a long time now. I find it funny how many people have commented on this. and all saying the exact same thing. So, Majority rules anyone?

    Every week I go out and see people who absolutely disgust me. Who utterly destroy reputations and spread rumors with single acts of stupidity or drunken naievity. PEOPLE SCREW UP, and i'm in no way excusing the ones who do it regularly cause I reckon they need help.

    Think about it. Why do people do these things. Its not cause they just decided to, its almost always because they've seen other people do it, they dont know another way or have been through crap in their past and have ended up going down a bad line in life. So instead of whining on things like this about people MAYBE YOU SHOULD SET AN EXAMPLE! and as a result maybe a few less people will screw about.

    Like the things but as has been said before, shouldnt just be guys.

    The Hairy Sponge.

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  164. Well, I agree with most of those. I also think both men and women should treat each-other equally. Also men should should not have to look like the innocent ones here, but also I'm not saying women are the innocent ones either. Still guys should open the doors for girls and pull out the chair taking in the rule "ladies first". But also girls shouldn't nag and stuff so much, like let us play cod every now end then end we will let you hang with your girlfriends...

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  165. Wow geez, chill out. This is not an accusation or anything. It's suggestions for girls who are wondering why their guy is unhappy.

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  166. Okay, these are all true and hopefully helpful to a few girls out there. Girls, I get that guys have hurt you, or done these things to you or worse but keep in mind that the author created this for YOU to learn what you may have been doing wrong in your past relationships, not to condemn all women/girls. Never once did the author say that all women do this in every relationship and guys are just innocent victims. The terms "May have" and "Most of us" and "if you..." were used several times in this article. It was purely hypothetical. Stop being so sensitive. Guys, sorry girls are like this. Remember that not ALL girls are like this. Girls, please just calm down. I'm a girl and I'M getting a headache from reading all of your weepy and whiny responses; how do you think guys feel when they have to deal with you when you're like that? My guess is that they want to jump off a bridge. :/ Whoever wrote this, thanks. You opened my eyes to a few things.

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  167. I agree that #1 is the biggest turn-off of all.

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  168. OMG, this isn't the top 5 women turnoffs, if you want those, go find them. Stop being a baby and listen to what it's saying.

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  169. jesus fucking christ people their are different guys and girls in the world just because one girl is a bitch and one guy is an ass doesnt mean all of them are

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  170. I think that if they are doing bad things, a change in them is good!!! but they wont see it! so if you want to you cange them, or they end up dieing! You Pick!

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  171. WOW big fight....... i think that every person has their own turn offs they being a girl or a guy..... part of the reason that not everyone likes every person is because that person may turn them of in a particular way... not always being the same ways

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  172. guys can be assholes believe me i am a guy i have made some mistakes just like every other human being but some girls like the ones at the top never stop whining its unbearable so you act your age and like a person and treat us like a person and not just some doll you have wrapped around your damn fingure than i garentee you will have more sucsess with guys

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  173. Girls play just as many games as guys do. It's a two way street for everyone, if you want respect then you need to 1) give it!!! DUH and # 2) Act like you want respect, don't tease because you think it's fun to toy with someones emotions. We all have feelings and some people need to realize that dating is not always a game.

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  174. Guys play games girls play games we all do it just live with it if you like them enough it wont matter
    p.s. guys think they are so important to us its just a relationship ur not gonna get married rite away so work up to having a ill drop anything to be with you relationship
    i had a boyfriend who didnt even want me to talk to my friends if he was around cuz he thought he took pretense over everyone u dont just get over urself (i was 14 at the time )

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  175. girls are good for 3 things: 1. Cleaning 2. Cooking 3.Pleasing

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  176. bum hole i love food and who ever just said the girls are good for things is a lil nasty

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  177. shutup bitches go make me a sandwich

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  178. make me one too

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  179. yeah this is all very funny to me bc its the complete other way around

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  180. I like how the stupid bitches who are all guilty of this, yet too proud to admit that most of them have this problem, are commenting like "stop adressing it to one gender" Well it's an article for women to help make themselves a better girlfriend/partner. Not to rag on them. And if you can't take criticism, I'd stop reading these things until you grow up.

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  181. Oh my God, guys. Shut up. No one said that all girls do this! All the author is saying is that guys don't like these five things. Stop freaking out because you find this bias. The topic is things that turn off men. That's the topic and that's what the author talked about. No one said that guys never turn off women. It does happen. But right now the subject is what guys don't like in a girl. 'Nuff said.

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  182. Thanks for the support. :P

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  183. or you can all just shut the fuck up, there 50,000 other pages about womens turnoffs, so dont go bitchin about the one page of guy turn offs anyones made FUCK! quit complaining! just like a woman........

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  184. This is funny shit you should just harden the fuck up and grow up

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  185. omg will all of u stop arugeing. i'm a guy and yes some girls do those but not all and yes some of us guys are jerks and dicks. but ladies you just got to find the guy whos worth it and same with us guys

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  186. Stupid typical guy who live sin his basement probably wrote this. Guys do this crap to GIRLS more than we do it to GUYS.

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  187. Well Girls can't change guys, guys can't change girls, only god can plus everyone needs to stop posting these lame arguments on here, just making everyone sound selfish.

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  188. YECSH YECSH YECSH MWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...i'm done

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  189. when the guy is stuck up and thinks its all about him!!!!

    ITS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU GUYS!!!

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  190. i don't think you should point the finger at the girls my past bf's did this to me so who ever made this should sut the fuck up and look at reality this happens to everyone not just guys!!!! >:|

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  191. i didnt read them all to many wordss...but i was bored as shit too! :)

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